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Christians in the Era of Digital Dating

June 1st, 2018 | No Comments | Posted in Lifestyle

Mother’s Day Tips for Dads

May 1st, 2018 | No Comments | Posted in Lifestyle

5 Secrets Spouses Keep That Hurt Their Marriage

April 1st, 2018 | No Comments | Posted in Lifestyle
Problems below the surface eventually show themselves, many times in ugly or explosive ways. One of those problems is when you are married with secrets that you are keeping from your spouse. If love, trust, and intimacy are the oxygen that fuels your marriage, having secrets is like putting faulty wires in the tank. The results can be catastrophic. On the surface, it may seem like your marriage is smooth sailing, but one minute later, it’s in a fight for its life when those secrets blow up. Here are 5 secrets spouses keep that hurt their marriage.

  1. Unhappiness in the Marriage

Many people wander into a place where they are discontent with their marriage. The reasons for keeping it a secret could be fear of hurting feelings, thinking the problems will eventually sort themselves out, or maybe they just don’t want to admit that they have become unhappy. Sometimes it’s no one’s fault in particular. Sometimes bad habits have developed by both that just need work. In the end, though, the problem(s) is (are) not going to go away by themselves. They have to be brought into the open and dealt with. Otherwise, you and your spouse will continue to separate.

  1. Fulfilling Intimacy Desires from Someone or Something Other Than a Spouse

It’s easy to see how an affair is hurtful to a marriage. But it’s the subtle things that are easily missed or justified long before an affair starts that lay the groundwork for disconnection. Sex is designed to build intimacy between a husband and wife. Sexual satisfaction and fulfillment are reserved for a spouse. When sex is lacking, it needs to be addressed, talked about, and resolved. Counseling should be sought. When a spouse secretly seeks to satisfy him/herself sexually through masturbation, pornography, or an affair, it destroys intimacy. The soul bonds with those other things rather than the spouse. With every sexual engagement apart from the spouse, the desire for that spouse gets duller until the fire finally goes out.

  1. Financial Decisions

No matter who is the primary breadwinner, in marriage, the money belongs to both of you, unless you have come to some sort of divided monetary agreement. Disagreements need to be talked about and worked out, not hidden. When one party makes financial decisions in secret that violate the couple’s agreement, it is a form of financial infidelity. One of the most important ingredients for a thriving marriage is trust. Keeping spending secrets is a major violation of trust and a fast track to disaster.

  1. Disagreement

Quietly disagreeing with a decision a spouse makes undermines the relationship in two ways. First, it’s a silent lie. Dishonesty equals disunity. Second, feelings of disagreement have to settle somewhere, and when they are unresolved, they usually turn into resentment. Third, a married couple should always think of themselves as having one brain. Working through disagreement causes us to make more informed decisions, even when it is frustrating. Supreme Court Justice Ruth Ginsberg couldn’t have been more opposite as recently deceased Justice Antonin Scalia. However, in a moving tribute to Scalia, she said that when they disagreed her final opinion was always better because he was able to clearly state all of the weak points in his dissent. Silent dissent makes the relationship and the spouse weaker.

  1. Past Relationships

Our past relationships significantly impact our current ones. We bring all of the wounds, baggage, and dysfunction they have caused into the marriage. Hiding it only leaves a spouse confused and separated. It is like a wall between one another. Do you have to share with one another all of the things you did physically in previous relationships? No. But it is important for them to know the level of intimacy and how you were affected by it. It’s good for them to know what went right and what went wrong. It helps them to know you better and how your past relational experience has formed you.

10 Sharable Images for Spring

April 1st, 2018 | No Comments | Posted in Lifestyle
The power of social media – it is a wonderful tool to share encouraging words and uplift others. With Spring finally here, it’s a perfect time to talk about renewal in our lives. That is why we have created 10 sharable spring images focused on renewal to uplift you and your community! Share them on your social platforms, or print and post around your home for your own personal encouragement in your family.

Make A Vision Board for 2018

February 6th, 2018 | No Comments | Posted in Lifestyle
Adapted from urbanmommies.com
(original article by Jill Amery)


If you’re already losing focus on your goals, try making a vision board! Making vision boards is a great exercise for the New Year to set intentions for you and your family!

Using words and images, they visually show you your goals and dreams. Your mind responds strongly to visual stimulation, so not only does the process cement your goals in your mind, but seeing your board in a prominent place triggers this visual cue.

The process of making a vision board is very simple, and from what I found – letting yourself be free and un-constricted will help a vision emerge. It can also totally help you get ‘unstuck’ if you are in a rut. I noticed that my board was indicating my desire for colour, relaxation and simplicity. Your brain works to try and achieve the statements you give to your subconscious. You are giving attention to things you desire and will naturally experience more of these things.

Tip 1: A vision board isn’t just about the things you WANT, but how you want to FEEL. It needn’t just be magazine clippings and words – depending on your style and design sensibilities it can fit perfectly into your decor.

Tip 2: One great tip is to make it your screensaver on your phone, ipad and laptop as well. As you achieve your goals and dreams, make sure to feel gratitude, and you will experience more good things.

Tip 3: This is a great activity to do with kids! When the kids did theirs, I noticed several trends that the boys had never expressed verbally.

What you Need to Construct a Vision Board:

  • Poster Board or bulletin board
  • Magazines
  • Glue/tape
  • Push pins
  • Scissors
  • Frame (optional)

Jill Amery
Jill Amery is a mom of 2 small boys and the Publisher of UrbanMommies, a stylish digital lifestyle magazine filled with fitness, style, health, recipes and savvy mom advice to help you through pregnancy, birth, and raising your kids.

10 Ways You Can Make Your Hot Chocolate Even Better

November 2nd, 2017 | No Comments | Posted in Lifestyle

It’s that time of year again. The days get shorter, darker and a lot colder which is why many start drinking more hot drinks to keep warm. There is nothing better than a cup of hot chocolate but sometimes you want something a little more exciting. Whether you are a lover of peanut butter, peppermint, cinnamon or Nutella, Here are 10 ways you can spice up your hot chocolate.

Infographic via SheKnows

19 Outdoorsy Things You Can Do Before the Snow Takes Over

October 2nd, 2017 | No Comments | Posted in Lifestyle
Since summer’s still sticking around you may as well start checking off everything in the list of things to do before it snows. We all know once the snow hits the ground in Ottawa, it basically becomes hibernation season for most of us. 

From time to time in the winter we decide to brave the cold and do something, but once we head inside we automatically remember why we don’t leave the house. Right now the weather isn’t that bad, you can go outside for a whole day and come back in without any issues like wet socks or frozen fingers. It’s time to take advantage of this abnormal autumn weather, here are 19 outdoorsy things you can do before the snow takes over!

Hikes:

Lusk Caves Trail // Gatineau Park
Distance: 12 km

 

Hemlock Bluff Trail // Algonquin Provincial Park
Distance: 3.5km (loop)

 

King Mountain Trail // Gatineau Park
Distance: 1.9km

 

Mount Marcy // New York
Distance: 24km

 

Wilson Carbide Ruins // Gatineau Park
Distance: 3km

 

Centennial Ridges Trail // Algonquin Provincial Park
Distance: 10.4km (loop)

 

Luskville Falls Trail // Gatineau Park 
Distance: 4.5km

 

Booth’s Rock Trail // Algonquin Provincial Park 
Distance: 5.1km (loop)

 

Pink Lake Trail // Gatineau Park 
Distance: 2.5km

 

Lauriault Trail // Gatineau Park
Distance: 3km 

 

Activities:

Go pet some of your favourite animals at Parc Omega 

 

Rent a canoe or kayak on Dow’s Lake or the Rideau Canal

 

Try something different and go horseback riding at Captiva Farms 

 

Head to Arbraska Laflèche

 

Walking Paths:

Mer Bleue Bog // Ridge Road

 

Pine Grove Trail // Ottawa, ON

 

Stony Swamp // 4897 Old Richmond Road

 

Chapman Mills Conservation Area // 254 Winding Way

 

Sarsaparilla Trail // Ottawa, ON

 

Source: Narcity