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6 Questions for your child

April 1st, 2018 | No Comments | Posted in Family
Our kids are filled with a wealth of ideas, passions, views, and perceptions just waiting for someone to explore. It should be us, their parents, who blaze the first exploration. With genuine interest and the right questions, we can get them to open up their souls. Here are 6 good questions to ask your child.

  1. What would you do if you were me?

If you want to get your kids talking more, give them a voice in your life. This builds trust and lets them know that you value their thoughts and opinions. Next time you have a situation or decision that requires some thought, ask for their opinion. Calling them to a higher level of thought is an exercise in wisdom. You don’t need to heed their advice, but just asking will honor them.

  1. What do you think would make the world better?

First, you will get an idea of the things about the world they think are wrong. Be prepared, you may get a glimpse of some painful stuff that has happened to them you may not know. This is especially true if they start by eliminating something negative in the world. Second, it gives them a vision of the type of person they want to be. The follow-up question to this one is what do you think we can do to help make that happen?

  1. What do you love most?

We all end up as servants to what we love the most, and sometimes we even become a slave to it. Career, drugs, family, sex, money, relationships, power, self, fame, God; whatever you love the most you will serve. Naturally, the follow-up question is, is that thing/person worthy of your service and devotion? What does it produce? This line of questioning will get them thinking about the consequences (good and bad) of where they invest their heart. What should we love the most?

We all end up as servants to what we love the most, and sometimes we even become a slave to it.

  1. If you could describe yourself in three words, which words would you choose?

This is a good way to get an idea about how they view themselves. You will learn where they find their identity. Pay attention to whether those words are positive or negative. Follow up this question with why did you choose those words?

  1. How can I help you?

We can’t always assume we know what they want or need. It’s important to hear from them. Sometimes they know best what they need from us. What they need may even be a little space for them to explore, dare, and fail on their own.

  1. Why do you think your mother and I had kids?

The answer to this question is central to their origin and affects their sense of identity. The reason we had kids is to have someone to love. They were created in love. Their sense of identity is that they are loved. They need to know and understand that well or they will live with a hole in their lives.

Adopted from www.imom.com

Easter on Pinterest

March 2nd, 2018 | No Comments | Posted in Family

St. Patrick’s Day on Pinterest

March 2nd, 2018 | No Comments | Posted in Family

Never Have I Ever: Parenting Edition

February 6th, 2018 | No Comments | Posted in Family
Score 1 point for every thing you have NOT done as a parent… Be honest!

21 Things I REALLY Want for Christmas as a Mom

December 12th, 2017 | No Comments | Posted in Family

By Laura Hanby Hudgens (source: charmingfarming.com)

For weeks now, my kids have been asking me what I want for Christmas. And I have said the thing that I am supposed to say, that I always say — I don’t need anything. I just want  all of my children to be happy and healthy.  It’s true. I don’t need anything. And I do want my children to be happy and healthy.

But they are good children, so no matter how often I say that I really don’t need anything, they will pool their money and buy me a new bathrobe or nightgown or a maybe well-intentioned kitchen gadget. And I’ll be grateful because I know they are buying me presents because they love me and want to show me that they care.

But here’s the thing. I’m lying. I don’t just want healthy, happy kids. Sure, that’s the most important thing, but there are a few other things that I desperately want. So maybe this year I will give my family my real Christmas list…

  1. I want everyone to lick or wipe the peanut butter off the spoon before dropping it in the sink. Better yet, lick it off and drop it in the dishwasher.
  2. I want never to hear the word SHOTGUN! again.
  3. I want never to open the cabinet and find a box with approximately two tablespoons of cereal left in it.
  4. I want a vehicle free of dead french fries and straw wrappers.
  5. I want all the socks in the whole world (or at least in my house) to find and keep their forever mates.
  6. I want kitchen countertops free from crumbs.
  7. I want someone else to feed the dog. C’mon, that was the deal.
  8. I want to stop pretending that the little flecks of green in the pasta are seasonings. It’s spinach, y’all. OK? It has always been spinach.
  9. I want to sit down with my coffee or my computer or my book for more than five minutes at a time before someone says, “Hey Mama! Will you…”
  10. I want to always be able to find a pen. And my scissors. And the duct tape. Seriously. Who keeps running off with the duct tape?
  11. I want to stop repeating myself.
  12. I want to stop repeating myself.
  13. I want a TV show that comes on during primetime that I can watch with my whole family and that does not involve wildlife or wild lives or people wearing camo or having sex — and that will not be interrupted by commercials for tampons, erectile disfunction or Victoria’s Secret.
  14. I want to learn how to use the television remote control, and I want the kids to forget how to use the television remote control.
  15. I want, just now and then, to arrive at church with a relaxed, well-dressed family at least 15 minutes early.
  16. I want to pray more as a family.
  17. I want to play more as a family.
  18. I want to sit down to dinner more often.
  19. I want to cook from scratch, and I want someone else to clean the kitchen.
  20. I want more nights at home with my family and fewer nights all going in different directions.
  21. I want to slow down time.

Obviously, some of the things on my list are within my family’s power to give me and some are not. But in the end, I know I will get a bathrobe or a nightgown or a kitchen gadget. And that’s OK. Because even though whatever I get might not come with a lifetime supply of spotless kitchens or perfectly matched socks, it will come with love. And besides, I really could use a new bathrobe.

7 Simple Ways To Raise Non-Materialistic Children

December 12th, 2017 | No Comments | Posted in Family

source: christianpf.com

Ironically, many children raised in wealth demonstrate the same tendencies as those who are raised in extreme poverty: depression, despair, attempted suicide, drug and alcohol use, and shoplifting.

Why this behavior?

The parents, who are often too busy making money sacrifice meaningful time with their children.

Admittedly, raising children in a world obsessed with stuff is a tough, tough job.

As savvy advertisers target these kids from early youth, and as their peers are quick to sport whatever the latest and greatest may be, the parents must be vigilant in teaching their children that such possessions do not make one happy, and, in fact, are detrimental to true happiness.

So . . . in this materialistic society, how does one go about raising non-materialistic children?

These tips will help:

1 – Practice What You Preach

If you buy cars to impress others, shop regularly just to be shopping, and “have to have” whatever the latest electronic gadget might be, don’t bother reading the rest of this article. Why? Because what you do screams to your children louder than anything you can ever say.

Albert Schweitzer said it well, “There are only three ways to teach a child. The first is by example; the second is by example; the third is by example.” Your first step, therefore, is to purge materialism from the person you see in the mirror.

2 – Spend Time With Your Children

Do you find yourself giving gifts to your children to make up for lack of personal attention? If so, you are instead sending the message that you think stuff is more important than a close relationship. Let the “Cats In The Cradle” lyrics resonate deeply. This Harry Chapin classic is a haunting reminder that once those child rearing years are gone, you will never get them back.

Cherish every moment you can spend with your children.

3 – Rein In Your Christmases

Somehow, someway, many parents missed the memo: “Christmas is not a license to overly indulge your children.” No matter how you justify it, overspending on your children just because it is Christmas is still overspending on your children (be sure to get on a Christmas budget). Try celebrating the true spirit of Christmas with your children instead of piling up stuff for them.

Our children, who are now grown, still have fond memories of the hours we spent together baking cookies and making homemade Christmas cards to give the inmates at a local prison. Create your own family traditions that involve time together and giving to others. Your children will cherish those memories.

4 – Help Them Prioritize Their Own Money

As your children become old enough to have their own money, help them prioritize that money. A very simple plan is to give some, save some, and spend some.

If you emphasize giving, you will be helping your child develop a heart for others. Because giving is the opposite of materialism, you need to constantly demonstrate a giving spirit.

5 – Support A Child In A Poverty Nation

Need something for that “giving” money to go for? How about supporting a child in a third-world country. Children have a natural empathy for other children, so if your kids can support a child with real needs, they will not only learn to love that child, but will also appreciate whatever material possessions they already own.

6 – Take Them On Foreign Mission Trips

I have been fortunate enough to accompany all four of my children on short term mission trips to Mexico. Three went while in high school; the fourth as an adult.

Nothing, absolutely nothing will impact kids more than seeing poverty up close and personal. Amazingly, the lesson my kids came back with over and over again was how happy those people (who had nothing) were. Talk about an antidote to materialism . . . these short-term mission trips have been firsthand proof that stuff doesn’t equal happiness.

Check out this article if you need to raise money for your mission trip.

7 – Take A Field Trip To A Dump

I borrow this idea from Randy Alcorn’s book, Managing God’s Money. Show your children all these piles of “treasures” that were once Christmas and birthday presents. Discuss how everything we own today will likewise end up in a junkyard like this one. Read 2 Peter 3:10-14 together (a passage that tells of how everything in this world will some day burn), then use this teachable moment to discuss true riches which transcend life here on planet earth.

Ask them this question: “When everything we have ever owned is someday burned, what, in your lives, do you think will last forever?”

In what ways are you helping your children avoid materialism? What could you be doing better? Leave a comment!

(recommended by Dave & Reb of “Let’s Talk Money” radio show)

Reverse Advent Calendar

December 12th, 2017 | No Comments | Posted in Family

Many families use fun Advent Calendars to help countdown the days until Christmas. Each day you receive a chocolate or a small gift… A Reverse Advent Calendar helps you to GIVE rather than receive.

Join us each day from December 1st through 24th as we add an item to a basket or hamper to give to a local shelter.

Follow along to see what we’re including in our hamper for Restoring Hope Ministries….

Facebook.com/CHRIradio for daily posts and Advent reading.

Click here to download a printable list of items.

Suggested items:
December 1 – Granola Bars
December 2 – Hot Chocolate
December 3 – Water Bottles
December 4 – Men’s Boxers
December 5 – Women’s Underwear (sizes M & L)
December 6 – Deodorant
December 7 – Q-Tips
December 8 – Herbal Tea
December 9 – Toothpaste
December 10 – Toothbrush
December 11 – Face Cloth
December 12 – Towel
December 13 – Lip Balm
December 14 – Gloves
December 15 – Socks (for men)
December 16 – Socks (for women)
December 17 – Cough Drops
December 18 – Vapor Rub
December 19 – Cookies
December 20 – Fruit Cups
December 21 – Jell-O Cups
December 22 – Women’s T-Shirt
December 23 – Men’s T-Shirt
December 24 – Band-Aids & Gauze